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It's Okay to Feel by Sugary-Stardust It's Okay to Feel by Sugary-Stardust
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Something I'm learning in therapy right now that I think is really important to share: IT'S OKAY TO HAVE FEELINGS. It's okay to have any feeling. It's okay to have every feeling.

Feelings tell you how you're doing. Even 'negative' feelings are important. The one I have the hardest time with is anger; I've always thought it was horrible. But you know what it means when you're angry? It means that your needs aren't being met. It tells you that something needs to change.

Growing up, I wasn't allowed to be angry, and I wasn't allowed to be sad or cry. I have a really hard time with these emotions now, and I avoid them like the plague.

But they're important, and I need to learn to accept them.

I actually have this written on my inspirational whiteboard in my bedroom. "I feel ______ right now and that's OKAY."

Re-learning how to think is really hard, but we can do it together. ♥

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Sugary-Stardust Featured By Owner 5 days ago
I agree. It is important to learn how to express yourself safely. :)
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Mrbunnykinz12 Featured By Owner Jan 21, 2017  Hobbyist Digital Artist
HEY I NEED TO ASK YOU A SOMETHING
Pastel-Patches, Pastel-Dream, or Pastel-cloud
what is your favorite because i can't decide okay bye thanks random person
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Sugary-Stardust Featured By Owner Jan 21, 2017
lol!

I'm all for alliteration, usually, but I think I like Pastel-Dream the most!
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Mrbunnykinz12 Featured By Owner Jan 21, 2017  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Thanks :D
Sorry for bothering you, byebye!!!
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Sugary-Stardust Featured By Owner Jan 21, 2017
No worries! xD
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SquishDemon Featured By Owner Jan 12, 2017  New Deviant Hobbyist General Artist
Using because this is important
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Sugary-Stardust Featured By Owner Jan 12, 2017
Thank you. :hug:
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champagn-e Featured By Owner Dec 31, 2016  Hobbyist General Artist
Using because yeah
I feel like this a lot
People don't keep my feelings in mind when they make me feel like shit


yeah
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Sugary-Stardust Featured By Owner Dec 31, 2016
Yeah. I think a lot of people get uncomfortable when other people have feelings around them, so they try to shut that person down. But it's okay to have feelings, and while it's healthy to learn how to cope with negative feelings, there's nothing wrong with experiencing them!
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champagn-e Featured By Owner Dec 31, 2016  Hobbyist General Artist
This really brought my day up. Thank you! I needed this <3
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Sugary-Stardust Featured By Owner Dec 31, 2016
You are welcome. :hug:
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champagn-e Featured By Owner Dec 31, 2016  Hobbyist General Artist
Heart 
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Fox-Trap-Forever Featured By Owner Dec 13, 2016  Hobbyist Artist
but they told me it wasnt ok to cry.
so im not shure how being sad will have any effect if im not allowed to cry.
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Sugary-Stardust Featured By Owner Dec 13, 2016
The answer is that it is okay to cry. :hug:

I wasn't allowed to cry when I was growing up, either - except for very specific circumstances in which my dad would get mad at me for 'not caring enough' if I didn't cry. It always felt wrong to me, so I didn't completely internalize it, but it's still a problem I deal with sometimes. My therapist actually encourages me to cry when she sees that I'm holding tears back.
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Fox-Trap-Forever Featured By Owner Dec 14, 2016  Hobbyist Artist
woah.
thats so sad.
and thank you
i really appreciate the kind reply 
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MidnightWaifuWaffles Featured By Owner Nov 6, 2016  Student Digital Artist
using ^^
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XxSansSkelegirlxX Featured By Owner Oct 31, 2016  Hobbyist Digital Artist
How do ppl use these on there da page??? I always wondered
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Sugary-Stardust Featured By Owner Oct 31, 2016
Go to the social media sidebar to the arrow next to "Tweet". Click it, copy the code under "Thumb", and paste that on your page. It will paste the image with an automatic hyperlink! c:
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XxSansSkelegirlxX Featured By Owner Nov 1, 2016  Hobbyist Digital Artist
okay thx!
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DisaWikasita Featured By Owner Oct 30, 2016  Hobbyist General Artist
Using
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Sugary-Stardust Featured By Owner Oct 30, 2016
Thanks :)
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XxCastAwayXx Featured By Owner Oct 11, 2016  Hobbyist Photographer
using <3
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JoodleDraws Featured By Owner Aug 30, 2016  Student Digital Artist
Im gonna use this on my page if thats okay!
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Sugary-Stardust Featured By Owner Aug 30, 2016
Of course! Just use the thumb code. ^^
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HesitantRyder Featured By Owner Aug 30, 2016  Student Filmographer
Using!!!
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DaeBelly Featured By Owner Aug 19, 2016  Hobbyist General Artist
Makes sense to me. I'm just a bit of a jaded person, so I don't really feel as much as others would; However, I still feel stuff and when I do it hits harder than it would others.
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Kialei Featured By Owner Jul 10, 2016  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Using ^^
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oOSeductiveBitchOo Featured By Owner Jul 2, 2016  Student Traditional Artist
Sometimes I get really depressed and whenever it is in public

People would say " smile " or " turn that frown upside down " which I could understand they are trying to help but the way they say it is like a bad thing.

So, thank you for making this stamp!
///ihopeididnotsoundlikeapitybitch
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Sugary-Stardust Featured By Owner Jul 3, 2016
Yep; where I used to work, I was a server at a retirement center (so I was very familiar with the residents, because the clientele didn't change). If I wasn't being chipper one day, they would say, "Smile!" Which, sometimes, is very sweet. Sometimes, it was just aggravating. I get that at my current job, too, if I'm handing out free samples. People are telling me to smile when I'm standing at the door, bored because nobody's interacted with me for half an hour and, you know, I'm at work.

Anyway, I understand you! It's okay to have your feelings, and I think you don't need to hide them.
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oOSeductiveBitchOo Featured By Owner Jul 3, 2016  Student Traditional Artist
Haha it's good to know someone has somewhat the same experience like mines

Also thanks for replying back that means a lot to me love (●´ω`●)
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oOSeductiveBitchOo Featured By Owner Jul 2, 2016  Student Traditional Artist
Sometimes I get really depressed and whenever it is in public

People would say " smile " or " turn that frown upside down " which I could understand they are trying to help but the way they say it is like a bad thing.

So, thank you for making this stamp!
///ihopeididnotsoundlikeapitybitch
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luckymistakes Featured By Owner May 12, 2016  Hobbyist General Artist
Using <3
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Sugary-Stardust Featured By Owner May 12, 2016
Thanks! ^^
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luckymistakes Featured By Owner May 12, 2016  Hobbyist General Artist
No problem!
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DarkDeerDoll14 Featured By Owner Apr 25, 2016  Student Traditional Artist
using
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SpeedXaaa Featured By Owner Feb 24, 2016  Hobbyist Digital Artist
I can't begin to say how much I agree with you on just how TRUE this is. Why does society feel the need to invalidate or make taboo negative feelings? Why should I have to deny the fact that I feel certain things?

We need to be true to ourselves, and we all need to understand that it really IS okay to feel a certain way. In any scenario! 
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Sugary-Stardust Featured By Owner Feb 24, 2016
Exactly!

If this helps you, I am very, very glad. If it helps anyone, I am very glad. <3
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SpeedXaaa Featured By Owner Feb 24, 2016  Hobbyist Digital Artist
But of course! Keep up the awesome, meaningful stamps. <3 And everything else, of course! ;)
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Sugary-Stardust Featured By Owner Feb 24, 2016
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